Max has never been exactly tidy in the bathroom, but over the last few weeks I've been finding him changing his pants a lot. Occasionally the problem is that he's not getting to the bathroom in time (I'm guessing), but other times the mishaps take place when he's trying to clean himself up. It's a nightmare for a mom of a boy turning 9 in just a couple months. What I found yesterday in his restroom prompted his father to remove his bathroom door, so we could see him in action. An invasion of privacy, but we've been asking him to keep the door open for weeks, only to have him refuse.
Our new strategy is to be there every time he uses the restroom to be sure he knows what to do, how to do it, and when to do it. Yes, we've rehearsed bathroom techniques many times in the past, but something has changed just recently. I really don't have any answers yet and I'm terrified that he'll have issues while at school. Fortunately that hasn't happened yet.
Max used to be a germaphob and would wash his hands constantly. Now he still loves to play in the water, but doesn't seem concerned about what's on his hands, where his hands have been, or where they go next. We are really struggling to understand him and know how to help him take what he does in the bathroom more seriously.
I wish we could afford to see a counselor more frequently. We're not sure how often our budget will allow it at $80 a pop... we don't go back until next week. I have so many questions, concerns, and frustrations... many of my frustrations are with myself. I feel like I'm missing pieces and don't know where to find them. It's draining.
I'm really looking forward to a growing readership here. I want to hear from other parents of Aspies. I feel the need to engage in conversation, to learn from those who've been there done that, and to provide encouragement where I can to parents struggling with battles we've already won.